It crept up on you ...
But out of the blue your body doesn’t feel like yours anymore. It doesn’t make sense because you are still young. You don’t feel like you’re old enough to where this should be happening. You still feel vibrant and youthful but with more experience under your belt.
Your body doesn’t respond or work the way that it used to. It leaves you feeling like your body is out of control. It feels like you’ve tried everything and yet nothing is changing. You worry your best days are behind you. You question if it’s all going to go downhill from here? What if you are never happy with your body again?
It feels so out of control ...
Sometimes you are so angry and irritable, and you really can’t figure out why. You find yourself tense for no reason, with anxiety out of the blue that you can’t seem to brush aside. If you’ve had anxiety or depression in the past, now it’s worse. Or you may be experiencing it for the first time.
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You feel alone and isolated. Overwhelmed and lost. How do I get back to myself?
Feeling invisible
When you seek out help from a doctor for any and/or all of this, it feels like you are being ignored. You talk to your doctor and she says it’s that time of life and it is what it is. She doesn’t seem to notice that what you are experiencing is just not okay. Or she just flat-out doesn’t believe you. She either can’t or won’t help you.
This change also comes with differences in how you feel about yourself. It means that the rest of the world sees you as even less than it saw you before. You know the world thinks of a woman after this point in life as irrelevant. That the things you think and believe become even less important in its eyes.
But you’ve worked so hard to be relevant that you can’t let it all slip away. And you just aren’t sure how to keep a grip on it all when it feels like so much could be stripped from you.
Emotional Support for (Peri)menopause and Midlife
As a therapist, I can’t help with the medical side of things. But I can help you to find a better place emotionally. Together we will explore your ideas of what it means to be a woman entering this time of life.
We will unearth those beliefs from your unconscious.
We’ll explore whether those ideas are really true of you and who you are. We’ll look at them really closely because you don’t have to be the person society says you should be.
Throughout this process, I will be right there with you. Helping you to figure out what part of you is the part that has bought into the roles and expectations that you are supposed to put on as a woman. And the parts of you who know what they want and need and aren't afraid to speak up.
If you haven’t dealt with everything that has happened to you in the past, this is the time when it is all going to come back up to haunt you. The difficult relationships that you’ve hung onto out of fear. The big and little traumas that have happened throughout your life.
Together we can help those wounded parts of you to heal so that you can have some peace moving forward.
When you look at who you are today compared to 10 or 20 years ago you realize you don’t feel older, you are the same person you were then but wiser, more courageous, and more confident. Let’s help you fully step into that and learn to be the woman you are really meant to be.
Hope for Midlife
When you leave therapy with me. I want you to be able to live out loud the best parts of you. I want you to be able to look at yourself and say “Yes parts of my body are changing. But I’m not my mother at this age and I don’t have to be.” I want you to be able to use this time as a time to make your life what you want it to be. And learn to step into that confident woman that we both know that you are.